When I was helping mold young minds, (I know, scary thought!;-) I realized early on that I was in their lives to help them achieve their dreams. I had to be stern yet gentle, harsh yet kind, firm yet soft and above all, I had to be and do exactly what I said. Integrity was the key to earning their trust. Basically, they had to believe what I was telling them. Trust that I was leading them in the right direction and believe in me so I could help them believe in themselves.