It's late at night on Father's Day. My kids spent the day with their dad, as they should. My youngest didn't want to come home. He wanted more time with his dad, which is fine with me because my ex husband is a very good father. If it had worked out with work schedules for tomorrow, I would have gladly let him stay for another night. I recognize the importance of his father in his life. But not ALL good dad's feel important.

As I look across the room at my NOW husband, I know he would have liked more time with his daughter today but he doesn't dare ask. He gets ONLY the minimum time that the court paper states even though he wishes and prays everyday for more time. His importance is NOT recognized. And, his sadness breaks my heart. Ever since I have known Quenton, he has been trying to get more time with his daughter. Like a lot of very good fathers, he would like equal time with his child but because of laws that favor the mother, his attempts have gotten him no where.

The laws are set up to protect children from fathers who let them down emotionally and financially. I know that there are many, many dad's out there who don't deserve equal time. They are unreliable and irresponsible. They don't pay child support and often times see their own children as a burden. There are two men in my own family like that and I would rather spit on them then look at them. I understand WHY the children in my family need to be protected from such losers. I get it!! But, if you are a mother who uses your child as a pawn, a weapon or  tool for pain against your ex, SHAME ON YOU!!!

What I mean is.....if the father of your child/children loves them, is always there for them, pays child support for them (On time!), pays for the extras for them, nurtures them, cares for them, wants to see them......YOU ARE LUCKY!!! AND SO ARE THEY!!!! Do NOT keep your child away from their father. Recognize his importance!!! He is JUST as important as YOU! A child needs a wonderful, loving, strong father just as much as he/she needs a wonderful, loving, strong mother.

Please find a way to put your past behind you and focus on what is best for your child. Keeping a child from a parent, whether mom or dad, is WRONG!! IF you have an ex who wants to co-parent, DO IT! Your child will be all the better for it.

I found a video that speaks from the hearts of the children. What is YOUR child's heart saying????

My ex and I vowed to ALWAYS put our children first. We have been able to put our pain and resentment behind us for the good of the precious lives that God entrusted us with. Our children NEVER have to choose. We make the choice for them. We choose BOTH of us. And you can too.