Jason Aldean Haters Need to Chill
Yesterday, we posted the story about Jason Aldean filing for divorce from his wife of 12 years, Jessica. First of all, let me say right off the bat that in no way shape or form am I going to defend Aldean in this post. Let me say that again, I am NOT defending Jason Aldean, but some of the things that are being said about him are very surprising. People who are saying they will never listen to his music again, or never buy another concert ticket are saying that without having the slightest clue about the real facts that led to the divorce filing. There are two sides to every story and in every divorce, both parties have some responsibility in the failure.
We don’t know what goes on behind closed doors and never will, which is why I am so surprised at the rush to judgement against him. There were obviously problems in that marriage and Aldean really complicated that mess by getting caught kissing former American Idol contestant Brittany Kerr out in the open. That was a very stupid move on his part, not to mention completely irresponsible and very disrespectful to Jessica regardless of their issues and situation.
None of us know what role Jessica played in all of this and we may never know. Truth be told, it’s really none of our business, but she did play a role. I was married to two cheaters, one serial cheater and one casual cheater and I know all to well how that feels and I can sympathize with Jessica. I also own my role and my responsibility in the break-up of both marriages because I did have a role even though I was not the cheater.
People are turning on Jason Aldean in big numbers and not one of those people has any facts beyond what has been reported. Everyone is certainly entitled to their personal opinion, but to place blame squarely on one person in this case is simply unfair.
Becoming a star requires a tremendous amount of sacrifice and when you have a family at the beginning of that journey, it becomes twice as hard. Keep in mind that the Aldeans were high school sweethearts and when they married, he wasn’t even close to stardom, then all of a sudden superstardom hits and suddenly, its a whole new ball game that none of us could possible begin to understand without having walked in their shoes.
The one fact that is true beyond any doubt is that they are going through a very difficult time right now and lives are going to change. No matter what happens, their children will suffer the most because mommy and daddy will no longer be together and they will carry that fact with them for the rest of their lives. Anybody who has ever been through a divorce when children are involved know that to be an inescapable fact.
Every single person hating on Jason Aldean right now, are doing so without the slightest clue about what has really been going on in that marriage. It takes two to tango and we should never forget that. Aldean made this much worse with his very public and stupid mistake, but there was obviously more going on than any of us knew or will ever know.
If you want to blame him, go ahead, but remember the old adage, ‘people who live in glass houses should not throw stones.’ Cut them both a break and let them deal with this the best they can. Their children would appreciate it.