Does a Lack of Social Media Presence Mean You are Hiding Something? Jon Says Absolutely Not

On the show this morning, Leslie and I were talking about an article in Cosmo about red flags for women who use online dating. The number one red flag is a lack of social media presence because that means someone is trying to hide something, to which I say.....BULL CRAP! I do understand why this might be important on an online dating site because I think it is reasonable to assume that anyone who would use a dating site in the first place, is probably very active on social media. I mean, why use a dating site if you don't have a Facebook page?

First of all, I would never in any lifetime even be tempted to use a dating site.....EVER, but the bigger issue is how you are judged for having little to no social media presence. Its not just dating sites.  I have read articles about job searching that says the same thing about a lack of social media presence - you must be hiding something and that turns potential employers off. Why does it mean that, and could that be a form of profiling?

Is it possible that someone who does not use social media sites does that by choice and has nothing to do whatsoever with hiding anything? Maybe they just don't want to put their entire life on display for all to see.

I really think that making that kind of judgement about someone is a VERY slippery slope and extremely unfair. By the same token, who is to say that a strong and active presence on social media isn't an attempt to hide something by pretending to be someone they are not, which happens all the time.

My point is, in today's world we tend to judge someone more positively if they are active and seemingly interesting on social media, whereas someone with little social media presence is judged much more harshly with the assumption that there must be something wrong with that person.  Why....what's the difference?  Either way, you are making a judgement based on something that may or may not exist in any way, shape or form.

Before we start assuming things about people  based on social media activity, or lack thereof, do your due diligence and do your research on that person. You can find out an awful lot about someone if you are willing to pay a few bucks for a records search, which are everywhere these days.

Outside of our station Facebook page, I am not active at all on social media because I just don't see the point, and I am not particularly interested in sharing my life with the whole world. I am not hiding anything, I am just private and careful and what is so wrong with that?